I just read my friend Cherish's blog about a mutual "friend" and it got me to thinking so I thought I'd post my thoughts.
We were friends with someone that we cared about dearly. I lived next door to her over three years ago and Cherish's husband and the "friends" husband were best friends which brought them together as friends. Anyway, I had a falling out with this person and her family almost 4 years ago. I also stopped talking to Cherish because they were "their friends" and we couldn't talk to "their friends"...what a crock of bull! I drunk dialed Cherish almost two years ago (is that right C?) and we've been in touch ever since! (She lives in CA) She's a wonderful person and such a great friend. After what I went through I'm glad at least a part of the ending of one friendship created a great one with her.
That said, I can't say that I don't think about the other person often. It's hard because we're still in the same area so I run into her more often than not and our girls go to school together and are still best friends. They've known each other all their lives - even while in the womb! And that's great, I'm glad they can still see each other at school and they've been in the same class since kindergarten. I even tried to send her a message on her myspace asking if our girls could hang out and have sleep overs - she's still not over herself and was a total B! It just gets tough for me because I'm a human being and I do have a heart...so it hurts. But at the same time, Cherish mentioned in her blog that this person is an angry hateful person so why should I care right?
I have to admit that it still bothers me. I think I'm the type of person who gets mad easily and can be very stubborn - Cynthia can vouch for that - but I don't think that ending friendships is the answer. I'd rather make up with someone - even if it's two years later, Cyn - than have them be out of my lives forever. She was a huge part of my life and even though it's almost been 4 years, it still sucks. Not to say that I want that bitchyness back in my life - I just miss the good times I guess.
Trent tells me all the time to get over it...and I pretty much am. I have the MOST wonderful friends a girl could ask for. I've got my bestest bestest friend ever Cynthia who I've know over 20 years now. I've got Cort who's also my best friend that I can talk to like a girlfriend, I have Megan who's introduced me to some great people, I have Cherish even though she's so far away...I've got too many to name and I don't need a negative hateful spiteful angry person in my life. I am truely blessed and I love each and every one of my friends.
I guess the moral of this is I'm thankful for what I have. And if I ever get mad at any of you or you at me, I will apologize...eventually, if I'm wrong that is. I learned after the fight I had with Cynthia and we didn't talk for two years...I called her because my Mom was dying, that's it's not worth it. Talk it out and get it over with. Losing my Mom opened my eyes and I will never let something dumb get in the way of friendships. They're too precious.
Talk about corny -
Kitty